I used to have terrible separation anxiety.
I knew for a long time that it was anxiety caused by my feeling abandoned by my birth mother at birth.
I absolutely think that its often debilitating effects are rooted in my feelings of rejection and abandonment.
To be separated from your only know nurturing source at any time in life can cause lasting damage. I was just reading an article by at PBS that talked about this very topic.
“Taking children away from their mothers is harmful to them,” said Jack Shonkoff, who directs the Center for the Developing Child at Harvard University and for decades has researched how stress affects the brain. “There’s nothing complicated about that, and there’s incredibly strong science and a big hunk of common sense that both lead us to the same conclusions.”
Incredibly strong science.
AND a big hunk of common sense.
So… when we are in a space where people openly allow the forcible separation of families and the placement of children in detention facilities.
We’ve been here before. Several times in fact.
We tear families apart.
And I know one thing has consistently been a universal truth in all of this.
It gets stopped on some levels. But continued in others.
And we’re gonna have to work to heal and make whole the children we unduly traumatized.
Because unlike adoptees and foster kids, their trauma is recognized. Whereas, the trauma. adoptees and foster youth is often justified. So while they have your attention, don’t just stop the injustices make them whole again.
Is that not what Jesus said we should be like in the parable of the Good Samaritan? He left provision for the Inn keeper to make the injured traveler whole.
Making whole means helping these children overcome the trauma cause so they don’t have to suffer from separation anxiety throughout life.