This should be a short blog.
Because the short answer is- what’s the point?
The reason I answer it like this is because literally years of experience has shown me that even the most “woke” or maybe I should say especially the most “woke” APs act a damn fool in my eyes.
“But Sara, how can you say that?!!!” You may gasp, “they are trying.”
And I agree. Actually the newbie APs get more props than the ones I’ve known for years.
Without exception the APs I’ve known for years engage in some of the most egregious violations against POC and women that I see anywhere on line.
Yes, WITHOUT EXCEPTION.
Chew on that for a while.
People who have sat at the feet of adoptees and learned for years, STILL engage in super problematic behavior after years and years of learning.
So seriously, what’s the point?
For me, there isn’t one anymore.
If APs want me to teach them- they have to pay me- straight up. No cash, No advice.
Maybe if you’re paying for it, it’ll mean more to you. Because up to this point, I have not seen any real progress and I have to believe it’s because “you get what you pay for.”
So no matter how much you’ve “learned from me” or how much I’ve changed your life… it was never enough.
And I simply have to quit.
I am more than happy to provide a space for APs to get advice on things like hair and skin and style.
It’s not a place where I am expected to shed my proverbial lifeblood to possibly get someone to care enough to help adoptees through TRA Cares. So, it’s easy for me to do.
Plus I don’t have any issues with deleting comments or people. I’m not obligated to anyone.
So… if anyone really even cares, here it is.
My emotional energy and time are not free. If you want to stay in my life and learn from me- run dat dough 😂.
My PayPal is email@example.com. This benefits ME and my family.
Or buy my book- it’s $25 to the same PayPal. If you’ve already bought the book- then read the above two paragraphs. Unless you bought the book last week (you two know who you are… you’re good with me).
APs- If I don’t see y’all doing either, I’ll assume you don’t want my knowledge and you’ll be gone.
Anyone who is not an Adoptive Parent reading this… carry on… This is directed toward them solely.
And please don’t come here and comment about me being rude or mean- I’ll delete it.
Don’t like what I’ve said? Show yourself out- I don’t need to know why.