Biological Privilege

Biological privilege is something akin to white privilege, but people rarely think or talk about it.  I mean, why would anyone think about the comfort that you have in knowing where your DNA comes from?  Why would anyone think twice about things like the importance of mirroring or genetic ties or knowing that ovarian cancer runs in your family?  That’s biological privilege.

It’s something that adoptees do not have.  It doesn’t just end with adoptees.  There are plenty of kids who are being raised by a single parent who have a question mark in the place of the absentee parent.  However, even in those cases, there is stills something biological to anchor them.

Adoptees are often asked questions like “why do you want to search?”  or “why don’t  you want to search?”  Just the fact that there are people out there biologically related to us – whether we want to know who they are or not – is taxing on the mind.  People with biological privilege don’t even have to think twice about these things.

Biological privilege is knowing that you can date anyone without the thought “could this be my brother/sister/cousin/aunt/uncle?”

Biological privilege is not having to answer the doctor with “I don’t know” when asked family history.

Biological privilege is hearing “oh, you look just like your mother!” and you know it’s true because you see her – everyday.

Much like white privilege, it’s not something you can change or should even be ashamed of – it just is.  You were raised by your biological family – therefore you have biological privilege.

There best you can do is be an ally to those of us who don’t have it.

Help us fight for our OBCs.

Tell the Department of Homeland Security that the laws for what is an acceptable birth certificate fails to address the issue of adoption.

Tell people to stop making stupid jokes about “Oh, he’s adopted..” when your trying to explain away aberrant behavior in someone in your family.  It’s not funny.

You cannot help having biological privilege anymore than adoptees can help not having it.  But much like white privilege, you can try to understand that not having it sometimes kinda sucks.

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About sjwoods318

Mother of six children - five girls and one boy; wife; community organizer, family chauffeur, philosopher, trans-racial adoptee, Deadhead, person of mixed racial heritage, artist, poet, writer who loves to swim, read, and run around with my family.
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8 Responses to Biological Privilege

  1. J says:

    Reblogged this on Ladies of the Round Table and commented:
    This SO helpful and true….

  2. I love the term, “Biological Privilege”! This is spot-on! Can I borrow this term?

  3. Come on USA Victoria Australia has had access to OBC since 1984 and the roof did not fall in when will the USA states start to catch up with us you are really quite backward with your thinking

  4. Michael Grenfell says:

    Perfect arguement and description of what us adoptees live with on a daily basis….and for many a lifetime.
    In turn, our own children inherit this biological blank space as well.

    Thank you.

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